Song of Songs 4:1-5:1 Sermon Notes (Romance Your Spouse)

Posted: July 26, 2010 in Uncategorized

Romance Your Spouse (Song of Songs 4:1-5:1)

After a few weeks off, we return to our study of the Song of Songs.  Now, please remember that this is a very, very old song and, like most old songs, the images seem strange to later generations.  If you’re under 50 then listen to Little Richard or Bob Dylan and you’ll see what I mean. Okay, that being said, let’s jump right in and look at the text:


4:1 Behold, you are beautiful, my love,
behold, you are beautiful!
Your eyes are doves
behind your veil.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
leaping down the slopes of Gilead.
2 Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes
that have come up from the washing,
all of which bear twins,
and not one among them has lost its young.
3 Your lips are like a scarlet thread,
and your mouth is lovely.
Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate
behind your veil.
4 Your neck is like the tower of David,
built in rows of stone; 
on it hang a thousand shields,
all of them shields of warriors.
5 Your two breasts are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle,
that graze among the lilies.
6 Until the day breathes
and the shadows flee,
I will go away to the mountain of myrrh
and the hill of frankincense.
7 You are altogether beautiful, my love;
there is no flaw in you.
8 Come with me from Lebanon, my bride;
come with me from Lebanon.
Depart from the peak of Amana,
from the peak of Senir and Hermon,
from the dens of lions,
from the mountains of leopards.

9 You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride;
you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes,
with one jewel of your necklace.
10 How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride!
How much better is your love than wine,
and the fragrance of your oils than any spice!
11 Your lips drip nectar, my bride;
honey and milk are under your tongue;
the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
12 A garden locked is my sister, my bride,
a spring locked, a fountain sealed.
13 Your shoots are an orchard of pomegranates
with all choicest fruits,
henna with nard,
14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,
with all trees of frankincense,
myrrh and aloes,
with all choice spices—
15 a garden fountain, a well of living water,
and flowing streams from Lebanon.

16 Awake, O north wind,
and come, O south wind!
Blow upon my garden,
let its spices flow.


Let my beloved come to his garden,
and eat its choicest fruits.

So, what is going on?

4:1 Solomon and his bride are in the wedding chamber but he takes the time to tell her how beautiful she is. This is significant, because in the ancient near east, men typically just took their brides, pleased themselves and moved on but that’s not how Solomon rolls. 
Why compliment her teeth? Remember there were no dentists in the ANE! Most people had nasty teeth and breathe but the bride has kept herself clean and he is complimenting her on how beautiful her smile is.
v.3, he is telling her that he cannot look at her without wanting to kiss her.
v.4, again, sounds weird, but in that day it was a way of speaking about how strong and dignified a woman was.
v.5, huh? Referring to your wife’s chest as woodland animals? In essence, he is saying they are soft and that he wants to touch them.  Hey, I didn’t write it!
v.6, refers to female genitalia…who says the Bible doesn’t rock?
vv.7-8, some commentators believe he is speaking of the build toward orgasm.
vv.9-11, then he dials it down and returns to compliment her again.
vv.12-15, he praises her virginity…garden is an image for a woman’s…well…you get it!
Note that even though it is the wedding night, Solomon is wooing his bride.  Men, please remember that sex is not just an event…it is an environment. It’s not just an act–it’s an atmosphere.
How does the bride respond?  4:16…translated = “Come and get it!”  She gives her body as a gift. 
Now, while it is true that husbands and wives are to give their bodies freely (1 Corinthians 7:1-5)…it goes without saying that we want this to be done eagerly! So, romance your spouse from your wedding night until the day one of you goes to be with the Lord. 

This requires selflessness but, thankfully, God’s mercy from creation to cross to re-creation not only saves us but empowers us to selflessly give to others.  The more we worship Jesus, grow closer to Jesus (through prayer, Bible study, etc.) and serve Jesus by caring for others, the more we become like Jesus who lived selflessly.  Such selflessness not only makes for a better marriage but is a powerful witness to the world of the power and grace of our God.

So may it be.

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